Problem was that recovery media and windows 2008r2 iso dont have USB 3 drivers. Poweredge 230 gen 13 only supports usb 3 ports. I added them to my original recovery iso by using nlite software https://www.ntlite.com/
. I also injected storage and lan drivers to old iso.
A bios setting needed for poweredge 230 generation 13 is a setting for legacy video memory otherwise display is lost when recovery media finishes to load.